Living a New Life

2016 has been quite the year for me. Not only did I find out that I have an autoimmune disease that has been causing me grief, I am also starting a new non-married life.

Almost every person that has found out that I joined the divorced club has felt sorry for me. There's nothing to feel sorry about. This is called life and life happens. If something doesn't work, you just have to move on or you will be miserable.

You only live once and life is tragically short. It's easy to assume happy looking people don't understand your pain, but just because someone looks happy, doesn't mean that they are. The older I get, the more I realize that happiness takes work. Happy people have been through every bit of sadness, fears, disappointment, and rejection as the next person. They just have the courage and strength to smile anyways.

So how do you live a new life to the fullest? Here are a couple things I have come up with, and hopefully it can help you.

Decide what’s important to you. Don’t do what you think people want you to do. everyone has their opinions, but at the end of the day, you’re the only person who will be around for every moment of your life. Do what makes you happy. 

Take risks. Sometimes life can be scary, but every reward carries risk with it. If you never take risks, you will never get anywhere in life. When people look back on their lives, they regret the chances they didn’t take more than the ones they did.

Live in the present. Your past is important to learn from and your future is important to work towards. But at the end of the day, the only thing that exists outside of your head is right now. Your past and future and important, but only dwell on the present and what is going on at the moment.

Ignore the haters. No matter what you decide to do with your life, there will always be people around to point out the ways of how you may fail. Successful people don’t start out successful. What makes them successful is that they don't give up.

Trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Trust your instincts. Do whatever you want so long as you can look yourself in the mirror.

Always keep your mind open and stay compassionate. Just because you are right about something doesn’t mean there aren’t other ways to look at it. Keep your mind open about other people's ideas. Lend an ear to someone that needs to vent. Try to understand other people's actions and why they feel a certain way. Be compassionate. Your kindness and words can make a difference in someone's day. Think before you react. Try to put yourself in someone else's shoes. You don't have to be perfect, you just have to be good.